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10 Signs Your Kid Is Handling Divorce Well

10 Signs Your Kid Is Handling Divorce Well

We all know divorce can take its toll on both parents and their children. However, that doesn’t have to be the case. Parents who focus their love and attention on safeguarding their children’s well-being, who provide security, make sound decisions and keep their children away from adult conflict and anxiety, have children that grow up […]

23rd May 2016 | By More
Inspiring Mom and Stepmom Friendships

Inspiring Mom and Stepmom Friendships

For many, the word “stepmom” conjures up some ugly connotations: the wicked stepmother from “Cinderella” perhaps, or someone who presses their stepkids to use words like “bonus mom” while crossing every parenting boundary in the book.   As pervasive as those images may be, it couldn’t be farther from the truth for many blended families. […]

19th May 2016 | By More
Excuses For Why We Failed At Love

Excuses For Why We Failed At Love

Excuses For Why We Failed At Love Watch this thought-provoking short film about the beautiful poem of Warsan Shire. It touches on so many of the reasons why our love relationships and marriages fail. There is never just one reason or one party to blame.. Warsan Shire is an inspiring Somali writer, poet and teacher, based in London UK. […]

18th May 2016 | By More
You don’t have to get Married

You don’t have to get Married

’…I’m not a big fan of marriage.   I think marriage takes really talented dreamers and creative beings that are capable of creating real change and puts them inside this widely accepted institution of marriage, where they will then spend most of their time, emotions, magic, and valuable energy trying to be «good» citizens and live up to the impossible «perfect marriage/perfect family» illusion that […]

9th May 2016 | By More
How to Deal with Manipulative Behaviour and Guilt Trips

How to Deal with Manipulative Behaviour and Guilt Trips

Manipulation refers to making attempts at influencing someone else’s behaviour or actions. As human beings, our emotions often cloud our judgements making it difficult to see the reality behind hidden agendas or motives in different forms of behaviour. The controlling aspects or shrewdness linked to manipulations are sometimes very subtle and may easily be overlooked, […]

7th May 2016 | By More
Q & A with Veronica Banks

Q & A with Veronica Banks

Q & A with Veronica Banks (Counselor)     Tell us a bit about your background and why you became a counselor? I have been counselling people for many years, often referrals from Pastors and church leaders. These referrals are mostly people who have marital problems, or are in the process of getting divorced or in […]

4th May 2016 | By More
Bistro near Pretoria High Court

Bistro near Pretoria High Court

Whether we are spending time in a Court of Law to fight divorce battles or simply going through the formalities of a settlement, it remains stressful and tiring. We might need to take a break between arguments, catch our breath after an emotionally charged encounter, re-group with our legal team or have a quick meal to keep […]

25th April 2016 | By More
Parenting Stereotypes and Parental Alienation

Parenting Stereotypes and Parental Alienation

This powerful TEDtalk by Dr Jennifer Harman, challenges us to re-consider our parenting stereotypes and expectations, as she illustrates how it subtly causes parental alienation in many instances. A must watch!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3YdldNXZnQ&app=desktop   Posted by Sinta Ebersohn (creator of fairdivorce.co.za – Stellenbosch RSA)

21st April 2016 | By More
Indulge the Joy – it’s the Best Therapy

Indulge the Joy – it’s the Best Therapy

When we decide to get divorced, we often go to extremes to secure the best possible advice and counselling money can buy and then we take comfort in the perception that we are acting in the best interest of all involved. Family is after all, the most important thing in this world and we’ll stop […]

1st April 2016 | By More
Why Women Initiate Most Divorces

Why Women Initiate Most Divorces

A recent study by the American Sociological Association found that women initiate two thirds of all divorces, a staggering 69% to be exact. An even higher rate of 90% of all divorces are initiated by college-educated women. This begs the following question: Why do women initiate divorce more than men? In my experience as a Women’s Empowerment Coach, […]

16th March 2016 | By More