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The Importance of Sadness

The Importance of Sadness

Sadness isn’t necessarily something to be avoided. In fact, Susan Piver says despair can be the consequence of fighting it. Compassion is what happens when you don’t. . . What if I told you that the way to change the world was not to be bold, resolute, brilliant, or even compassionate? What if I told […]

9th June 2016 | By More
Happy Anniversary Dear Ex

Happy Anniversary Dear Ex

30 May marks twenty two years since I committed myself to a marriage and raising a family. I know now, that I had no idea what I was letting myself into and the idealistic vows I made, originated from an earnest desire to be a loving wife to my husband and a dedicated mother to […]

31st May 2016 | By More
Do You Give as Much as You Want?

Do You Give as Much as You Want?

Do You Give as much as You Want? Ever since I can remember, we’ve been taught to ask ourselves “What do I WANT from life?” We grow up constantly being prompted “What do you WANT to do with your life?” Everything we do revolves around getting exactly what we WANT. We are encouraged to WANT […]

26th May 2016 | By More
10 Signs Your Kid Is Handling Divorce Well

10 Signs Your Kid Is Handling Divorce Well

We all know divorce can take its toll on both parents and their children. However, that doesn’t have to be the case. Parents who focus their love and attention on safeguarding their children’s well-being, who provide security, make sound decisions and keep their children away from adult conflict and anxiety, have children that grow up […]

23rd May 2016 | By More
Inspiring Mom and Stepmom Friendships

Inspiring Mom and Stepmom Friendships

For many, the word “stepmom” conjures up some ugly connotations: the wicked stepmother from “Cinderella” perhaps, or someone who presses their stepkids to use words like “bonus mom” while crossing every parenting boundary in the book.   As pervasive as those images may be, it couldn’t be farther from the truth for many blended families. […]

19th May 2016 | By More
Excuses For Why We Failed At Love

Excuses For Why We Failed At Love

Excuses For Why We Failed At Love Watch this thought-provoking short film about the beautiful poem of Warsan Shire. It touches on so many of the reasons why our love relationships and marriages fail. There is never just one reason or one party to blame.. Warsan Shire is an inspiring Somali writer, poet and teacher, based in London UK. […]

18th May 2016 | By More
You don’t have to get Married

You don’t have to get Married

’…I’m not a big fan of marriage.   I think marriage takes really talented dreamers and creative beings that are capable of creating real change and puts them inside this widely accepted institution of marriage, where they will then spend most of their time, emotions, magic, and valuable energy trying to be «good» citizens and live up to the impossible «perfect marriage/perfect family» illusion that […]

9th May 2016 | By More
How to Deal with Manipulative Behaviour and Guilt Trips

How to Deal with Manipulative Behaviour and Guilt Trips

Manipulation refers to making attempts at influencing someone else’s behaviour or actions. As human beings, our emotions often cloud our judgements making it difficult to see the reality behind hidden agendas or motives in different forms of behaviour. The controlling aspects or shrewdness linked to manipulations are sometimes very subtle and may easily be overlooked, […]

7th May 2016 | By More
Q & A with Veronica Banks

Q & A with Veronica Banks

Q & A with Veronica Banks (Counselor)     Tell us a bit about your background and why you became a counselor? I have been counselling people for many years, often referrals from Pastors and church leaders. These referrals are mostly people who have marital problems, or are in the process of getting divorced or in […]

4th May 2016 | By More
Bistro near Pretoria High Court

Bistro near Pretoria High Court

Whether we are spending time in a Court of Law to fight divorce battles or simply going through the formalities of a settlement, it remains stressful and tiring. We might need to take a break between arguments, catch our breath after an emotionally charged encounter, re-group with our legal team or have a quick meal to keep […]

25th April 2016 | By More