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Your Failed Marriage Was Still A Successful Relationship

Your Failed Marriage Was Still A Successful Relationship

“I know we met because of an ad on Craigslist,” he was saying, “But I’m new at this kind of thing and don’t really know the rules, so I’d like to ask you something.” It was a beautiful sunny morning in Tucson, Arizona and the stranger sitting across the restaurant table from me was, in […]

7th December 2015 | By More
The Effective Stepfather: A Check-List to Live by

The Effective Stepfather: A Check-List to Live by

Anyone who has been a father and then a stepfather knows that they aren’t the same.  While many aspects of these two roles are similar, it is the unique ones that lead to disillusionment. Franklin put it this way: “I’ve been to every Promise Keepers conference and I’ve studied fathering with my men’s group many […]

4th December 2015 | By More
Etiquette for Special Occasions

Etiquette for Special Occasions

“A big part of cooperative parenting and divorce means getting along for your children’s sake no matter what the occasion is. When you have a child together, there will be certain celebrations that your child will want both parents to be present and being able to put your animosity aside just for a day can […]

25th November 2015 | By More
How badly will Divorce hurt your Kids?

How badly will Divorce hurt your Kids?

If you believe your children will be unaffected by your divorce, you’ll be surprised to learn that all children of divorce suffer emotional injuries. So the question is not whether they’ll be hurt, but how badly they’ll be hurt. Here’s how to minimise the damage:   When Linda and Steve (names have been changed to […]

24th November 2015 | By More
A Father’s Loss – Moving Out

A Father’s Loss – Moving Out

A common divorce scenario for families with children, looks like this: Dad moves out of the marital home into a small apartment while Mom and the kids remain in the family dwelling. While it seems like a sensible option, it is important not to underestimate the severe sense of loss a father has to deal […]

23rd November 2015 | By More
Signs that your Spouse is Hiding Assets

Signs that your Spouse is Hiding Assets

Hiding assets to avoid sharing fairly during divorce is an unethical and illegal practice, commonly found all over the world. Your assets may include your marital home (primary residence), holiday property, investments, bank accounts, savings, shares, retirement funds, pension plans, cash value on life insurance, a professional practice, a business and much more. Instead of […]

12th November 2015 | By More
Q & A with Nina Mensing

Q & A with Nina Mensing

Q & A with Nina Mensing (Family Matters Mediation)     What is your background and how did you come to do mediation? I come from a journalism and photography background. However due to my ex-husband’s mental illness I became involved in mental health and began facilitating workshops and support groups for families who have a […]

12th November 2015 | By More
Annual Value of Stay at Home Parents

Annual Value of Stay at Home Parents

How many times have you been asked: “What do you do all day?” If we quantify the monetary value of the contribution made by a stay-at-home parent, it often far outweighs the contribution that same parent could make by earning an average income. It could cost much more to pay someone else to fulfill all […]

3rd November 2015 | By More
When is the Best Time to Divorce?

When is the Best Time to Divorce?

Is there an age when divorce is easier on children? There’s no simple answer: it all depends on what’s going on in your family, what kind of parents you are, how much you can co-operate and also, the age and temperament of your child. I hear this question every time I lecture parents or participate […]

29th October 2015 | By More
How to deal with Toxic Family Members

How to deal with Toxic Family Members

Breaking up with a friend, boyfriend or girlfriend is one thing and there’s a lot of advice out there for doing it, but what about a family break-up? Most of us are not in a position to “just leave” nor do we feel we want to, or that it’s the right thing to do. So what do […]

28th October 2015 | By More