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What is a fair divorce?

What is a fair divorce?

A fair divorce is where the needs of both parents are in balance like the scales of justice, while keeping the children’s needs in mind as the overriding factor. Even if your spouse is angry and bitter, you can change this by not reacting in fear and anger yourself. You don’t have to be on […]

25th March 2015 | By More
Economic Abuse

Economic Abuse

Definition: When one intimate partner has control over the other partner’s access to economic resources, diminishing the victim’s capacity to support him/herself and forces him/her to depend on the perpetrator financially. Control of someone’s present or future earning potential. Economic abuse is often used as a controlling mechanism as part of a larger pattern of […]

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Litigational Abuse

Litigational Abuse

. Litigational Abuse . . . Definition: Deliberate, protracted litigation, of actions that have little or no merit, with the vexatious and/or frivolous intent to harass or subdue an adversary. Legal victimisation, intended to impose severe psychological stress and financial ruin. Falsification of evidence and improper manipulation of the legal system. Read Economic Abuse Effects: […]

25th March 2015 | By More
My Beautiful Divorce

My Beautiful Divorce

A year ago today, my wife and I decided to end our marriage. But while our marriage had run its course, what we’ve found since then is that our friendship, relationship, and commitment to each other and the family we’d built, hadn’t. We’d been friends for almost 10 years before we were a couple. We […]

25th March 2015 | By More
Once a father, always a father

Once a father, always a father

Seconds after my daughter’s birth, she was put in my arms. There I was, holding this little bundle with a pretty decent mop of black  hair, crying desperately and still quite messy from the birth. At that point I had no time to decide whether I wanted to be a father or not. The fact was […]

25th March 2015 | By More
What is a Parenting Plan?

What is a Parenting Plan?

The Children’s Act offers parenting plans as a method to assist parents with how to exercise their parental responsibilities and rights after separation or divorce. Parenting plans are a relatively new concept in South Africa, but are already popular in countries such as the United States and Australia, and in certain European countries. A parenting […]

24th March 2015 | By More
Safety Tips for Visitation

Safety Tips for Visitation

Your kids are going to visit your ex regularly and if the level of safety consciousness is not quite the same as yours, this is for you. Instead of getting furious and having another unresolved argument because the other party simply doesn’t get it, why don’t you rather teach your kids some basic emergency tips […]

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A – Z of True Happiness

A – Z of True Happiness

                      Compiled from an article by Mike Oppland, which originally appeared on Lifehack Posted by Sinta Ebersohn (Creator of fairdivorce.co.za – Stellenbosch)

24th March 2015 | By More
Why Divorce Made Me a Better Parent

Why Divorce Made Me a Better Parent

Divorce sucks. It doesn’t matter if you were the divorcer or the divorcee, it doesn’t matter who was at fault, none of that matters – what does matter is that it’s a time in your life when you are forced to hit a reset button. You can choose to use that reset button for good […]

24th March 2015 | By More
7 Lessons about Divorce

7 Lessons about Divorce

I was lucky to have had (and still have) a tight network of close family and friends who helped guide me through this difficult period, people who offered me comfort, advice and a shoulder to cry on when I needed one the most. Whether it was insight about marriage or life after divorce, their wisdom […]

23rd March 2015 | By More