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Once a father, always a father

Once a father, always a father

Seconds after my daughter’s birth, she was put in my arms. There I was, holding this little bundle with a pretty decent mop of black  hair, crying desperately and still quite messy from the birth. At that point I had no time to decide whether I wanted to be a father or not. The fact was […]

25th March 2015 | By More
Why Divorce Made Me a Better Parent

Why Divorce Made Me a Better Parent

Divorce sucks. It doesn’t matter if you were the divorcer or the divorcee, it doesn’t matter who was at fault, none of that matters – what does matter is that it’s a time in your life when you are forced to hit a reset button. You can choose to use that reset button for good […]

24th March 2015 | By More
7 Lessons about Divorce

7 Lessons about Divorce

I was lucky to have had (and still have) a tight network of close family and friends who helped guide me through this difficult period, people who offered me comfort, advice and a shoulder to cry on when I needed one the most. Whether it was insight about marriage or life after divorce, their wisdom […]

23rd March 2015 | By More
Divorce can be toxic to childhood

Divorce can be toxic to childhood

British writer and education consultant, Sue Palmer, writes in her book Toxic Childhood, that children with divorced parents perform significantly worse than others, on academic tests. They display more conduct problems, poorer psychological adjustment, lower self-esteem and weaker social relationships. This is reflected in tears and tantrums, regression to immature behaviour and “the all-too familiar […]

20th March 2015 | By More
3 Major Perks Of My Parents’ Divorce

3 Major Perks Of My Parents’ Divorce

I was recently at a dinner party among people I didn’t know very well (note to self: stop doing that), when the topic somehow turned to grown children of divorce. One of the guests made a comment along the lines of how she thought it made total sense that children of divorce would grow up […]

19th March 2015 | By More
7 Steps to Forgiveness

7 Steps to Forgiveness

BURYING THE PAST ONCE AND FOR ALL Only recently have I been able to truly forgive myself and my former spouse for our divorce. Honestly, my journey was stalled for many years because I was unable to let go of resentment and to emancipate myself from the hurt and pain that we caused our children. […]

17th March 2015 | By More
Divorce Etiquette

Divorce Etiquette

How to handle yourself the best way possible Divorce can either be a smooth and amicable experience, or it can be a dramatic and emotionally distressing one. Ultimately, you are in control of whether or not the process of your divorce is bearable or not. You need a plan to get a grip on the […]

26th February 2015 | By More