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How to Mediate with a Reluctant Party

How to Mediate with a Reluctant Party

Mediation should be your first option so that you preserve your relationship going forward, but what are you to do when the other person does not want to enter into the process? Many people are reluctant to engage in mediation for various reasons, the most common of which is the lack of understanding of the […]

24th October 2016 | By More
Earn Forgiveness and Rebuild Trust after Betrayal

Earn Forgiveness and Rebuild Trust after Betrayal

Whether you divorce or reconcile, it remains paramount to earn forgiveness for betraying our spouses and work diligently to build a renewed trusting relationship. This process set out below, will not only bring healing but will lay the foundation for respectful and amicable co-parenting where children are involved. To err is human, to take full […]

8th July 2016 | By More
Do You Give as Much as You Want?

Do You Give as Much as You Want?

Do You Give as much as You Want? Ever since I can remember, we’ve been taught to ask ourselves “What do I WANT from life?” We grow up constantly being prompted “What do you WANT to do with your life?” Everything we do revolves around getting exactly what we WANT. We are encouraged to WANT […]

26th May 2016 | By More
How to Deal with Manipulative Behaviour and Guilt Trips

How to Deal with Manipulative Behaviour and Guilt Trips

Manipulation refers to making attempts at influencing someone else’s behaviour or actions. As human beings, our emotions often cloud our judgements making it difficult to see the reality behind hidden agendas or motives in different forms of behaviour. The controlling aspects or shrewdness linked to manipulations are sometimes very subtle and may easily be overlooked, […]

7th May 2016 | By More
Parenting Stereotypes and Parental Alienation

Parenting Stereotypes and Parental Alienation

This powerful TEDtalk by Dr Jennifer Harman, challenges us to re-consider our parenting stereotypes and expectations, as she illustrates how it subtly causes parental alienation in many instances. A must watch!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3YdldNXZnQ&app=desktop   Posted by Sinta Ebersohn (creator of fairdivorce.co.za – Stellenbosch RSA)

21st April 2016 | By More
Advice from a Judge

Advice from a Judge

In my several decades in and near divorce court, I have seen more than a fair share of sad people who can’t seem to move on from their divorces. Some of them manage to turn the process of getting a judgment terminating their marriage from something that should have been finished in a few months […]

13th January 2016 | By More
Don’t Divorce on Social Media

Don’t Divorce on Social Media

Every morning, as I drink my morning cup of coffee, I scroll through my Facebook news feed, and it does not take me long before I come across a “friend’s” post that causes me to shake my head, and think “Why would they post that?” In today’s social media savvy world, people are often quick […]

8th December 2015 | By More
How to Deal with Toxic Family Members

How to Deal with Toxic Family Members

Breaking up with a friend, boyfriend or girlfriend is one thing and there’s a lot of advice out there for doing it, but what about a family break-up? Most of us are not in a position to “just leave” nor do we feel we want to, or that it’s the right thing to do. So what do […]

28th October 2015 | By More
How to Stay Calm while Negotiating with your Ex

How to Stay Calm while Negotiating with your Ex

There aren’t many people who jump for joy at the prospect of having a potentially contentious and heated conversation with someone they are divorcing. It can be very unsettling, profoundly frustrating and deeply disappointing. The unfortunate reality for the vast majority of divorcing couples is that tense moments, conflicts and arguments are inevitable during your […]

25th September 2015 | By More
When Divorce Litigation is Inevitable

When Divorce Litigation is Inevitable

Although litigation is traditionally the most common option for divorce, around 90% of divorces are settled out of court worldwide. Good litigation ought to negotiate the best compromise that will keep your divorce case out of court. However, there are instances where going to court remains the most viable option, only if you have honestly […]

15th September 2015 | By More