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Parenting Stereotypes and Parental Alienation

Parenting Stereotypes and Parental Alienation

This powerful TEDtalk by Dr Jennifer Harman, challenges us to re-consider our parenting stereotypes and expectations, as she illustrates how it subtly causes parental alienation in many instances. A must watch!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3YdldNXZnQ&app=desktop   Posted by Sinta Ebersohn (creator of fairdivorce.co.za – Stellenbosch RSA)

21st April 2016 | By More
Advice from a Judge

Advice from a Judge

In my several decades in and near divorce court, I have seen more than a fair share of sad people who can’t seem to move on from their divorces. Some of them manage to turn the process of getting a judgment terminating their marriage from something that should have been finished in a few months […]

13th January 2016 | By More
Don’t Divorce on Social Media

Don’t Divorce on Social Media

Every morning, as I drink my morning cup of coffee, I scroll through my Facebook news feed, and it does not take me long before I come across a “friend’s” post that causes me to shake my head, and think “Why would they post that?” In today’s social media savvy world, people are often quick […]

8th December 2015 | By More
How to Deal with Toxic Family Members

How to Deal with Toxic Family Members

Breaking up with a friend, boyfriend or girlfriend is one thing and there’s a lot of advice out there for doing it, but what about a family break-up? Most of us are not in a position to “just leave” nor do we feel we want to, or that it’s the right thing to do. So what do […]

28th October 2015 | By More
How to Stay Calm while Negotiating with your Ex

How to Stay Calm while Negotiating with your Ex

There aren’t many people who jump for joy at the prospect of having a potentially contentious and heated conversation with someone they are divorcing. It can be very unsettling, profoundly frustrating and deeply disappointing. The unfortunate reality for the vast majority of divorcing couples is that tense moments, conflicts and arguments are inevitable during your […]

25th September 2015 | By More
When Divorce Litigation is Inevitable

When Divorce Litigation is Inevitable

Although litigation is traditionally the most common option for divorce, around 90% of divorces are settled out of court worldwide. Good litigation ought to negotiate the best compromise that will keep your divorce case out of court. However, there are instances where going to court remains the most viable option. . Unwillingness to Divorce The […]

15th September 2015 | By More
What to Do When You’re Feeling Angry with Someone

What to Do When You’re Feeling Angry with Someone

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” ~Chinese proverb It’s inevitable that we’ll feel angry—and many times, with people we know well and love. We all will. We’ll all have lots of misunderstandings and annoyances, and lots of opportunities to practice responding to anger calmly […]

18th May 2015 | By More
10 Ways to Reduce Drama Instantly

10 Ways to Reduce Drama Instantly

“Drama does not just walk into your life. Either you create it, invite it, or associate with it.” – Unknown . Drama demands attention. It’s a way of making a person, an action or a thing seem more important than it is. Drama exists in all facets of our lives, and not many can admit to […]

20th April 2015 | By More
Compassion in Divorce

Compassion in Divorce

Divorce is ranked the second most stressful life experience, after the death of a spouse. While some marriages end amicably, many end with partners feeling angry, resentful or overwhelmed with emotional pain. If we listen compassionately to our spouses and have the ability to translate their loudness or aggression into the feelings and unmet needs that they have, […]

19th April 2015 | By More
7 Steps to Forgiveness

7 Steps to Forgiveness

BURYING THE PAST ONCE AND FOR ALL Only recently have I been able to truly forgive myself and my former spouse for our divorce. Honestly, my journey was stalled for many years because I was unable to let go of resentment and to emancipate myself from the hurt and pain that we caused our children. […]

17th March 2015 | By More