Identification With The Aggressor: In the Lives of Children of Divorce and Separation I am often asked why children align with controlling parents and reject a parent they have witnessed being abused, the answer is simple, although the dynamic which traps the child in the mind of an abuser is not. Children align with a …
In a world which can feel unpredictable, terrifying and unsafe, the concept of Lighthouse Keeping is one which I use, to enable a sense of stability and security within for those who have suffered from the relational trauma of being rejected by a child in divorce and separation. In such circumstances, where parents are the …
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Alienated children in divorce and separation are captured within the anxiety cycles of the influencing parent and the reaction of the rejected parent. As such they are trapped within a recycling of feelings, which leak through to their conscious awareness and they are forced into managing this on a routine basis. This exposure to anxiety, …
It is a decade since I worked with Thomas Moore to assist in reuniting him with his son after many years apart. You can read about his journey and our work together in his book ‘Please Let Me See My Son’. This week Thomas called me to say hello and let me know that his …
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Here is our August Give-Away! Allan Freeman-Jones, author of Parental Alienation: A Loving Father’s Lost Years has generously donated four autographed copies of his book, two of which will be kept in our Library and the other two will be given away in a lucky draw. To enter the draw, please click the link provided below. …
Radio Talk about Parental Alienation in Afrikaans I recently talked about Parental Alienation with Johan Rademan at Oggend op RSG in Afrikaans. Attorney Louise Rive joined the conversation for a legal perspective. Ek het onlangs oor Ouervervreemding gesels met Johan Rademan van Oggend op RSG in Afrikaans. Prokureur Louise Rive het saam gesels vir …
Being alienated is a damaging psychological experience for anyone but for children it is devastating, toxic and causes a lifetime of struggle to regain psychological health and wellbeing. Read The Drama of the Alienated Child (1) This issue is far beyond that of a contact dispute and far beyond that even of conflict or disharmony …
What happens to alienated children is a malfunctioning of what could and should be empathic attunement to the individual needs and feelings of a child. It is a disruption of the child’s right to grow to feel their own feelings and an imposition of adult responses to the world onto a vulnerable, virtually helpless being. …
288 Alienated Children’s Names from all over the world, Pinned to two Christmas Trees for Alienated Families in 2017. . Did you miss someone last Christmas? Claim the rightful place of your alienated child or grand-child in your family! Hold a space for them in your circle of celebrations and honour the tremendous trauma of …
The Parental Alienation Study Group (PASG) together with the National Coalition Against Parental Alienation (NCAPA), offers two online courses on Parental Alienation, at no cost to participants. The one course was designed for parents & family members dealing with parental alienation and the other, for professional counselors & attorneys. Both offer a comprehensive insight into …
