The Lighthouse Keepers: Shining a Light on Reality

In a world which can feel unpredictable, terrifying and unsafe, the concept of Lighthouse Keeping is one which I use, to enable a sense of stability and security within for those who have suffered from the relational trauma of being rejected by a child in divorce and separation. In such circumstances, where parents are the …

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Putting Children First is Toxic!

Yes, you read correctly. When going through a divorce or blending a new family, putting the children’s needs above everyone else’s, is toxic. In fact, it is not a good idea for any family. It is a great recipe for unhealthy parent-child relationships and dysfunctional families. Since I founded this platform in 2015, I’ve been …

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While You Were Gone

Printable Scrapbook Templates for Alienated Families Available for instant download on Etsy I have a long family history of alienation and only when I went through my own gruelling divorce, did I become aware of the term parental alienation and the horrifying extent to which families are affected by it all over the world. Since …

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Child Maintenance Difficulties

Support for Parents Going Through The Child Maintenance System CMDSA CMDSA is an acronym for Child Maintenance Difficulties in South Africa, a Facebook group founded by Felicity Guest in July 2014.  She started the group to offer support to people going through the maintenance system as a result of her own traumatic experience with a fraudulent …

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21 Ways Cultural Diversity Impacts Divorce

21 May is World Day of Cultural Diversity and to commemorate that, let’s look at the role cultural diversity plays in our relationships, families and communities especially when going through separation and divorce. Diversity is a great thing. It enriches our relationships and widens our horizons. Opposites attract and it’s super exciting to get to …

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Divorced and Blended Family Challenges

Discussions about the biggest challenges divorced and blended families face with practical advice, valuable insights and helpful tips for family members.

The Anxiety of the Alienated Child

Alienated children in divorce and separation are captured within the anxiety cycles of the influencing parent and the reaction of the rejected parent. As such they are trapped within a recycling of feelings, which leak through to their conscious awareness and they are forced into managing this on a routine basis. This exposure to anxiety, …

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67 Divorce Problems & Solutions

“Generally speaking, there are two kinds of learning: experience, which is gained from your own mistakes, and wisdom, which is learned from the mistakes of others.” – John Maxwell On Mandela day (18 July 2019), I set out to answer 67 questions about divorce, as my goodwill contribution. It took several days of diligent dedication …

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September Fair Divorce Give-Away 2018

Our September Give-Away!  Sandra Levins, author of Was It the Chocolate Pudding? has generously donated two autographed copies of her book, one of which will be kept in our Library and the other one will be given away in a lucky draw. To enter the draw, please click the link provided below. The draw will take …

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False Allegations as Psychological Terrorism

The Emotional & Psychological Terrorist: False Allegations in Parental Alienation Many of the cases I work with feature allegations of harm.  The allegations can range from mild to severe, from a child being chastised, to a child being involved in an organised child sexual abuse gang.  A case which features allegations of harm can create …

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