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🆓 ONLINE WEBINAR – Wednesday 7 October, 11:00 (SAST)
🔄 BREAK the CYCLE
Be a Better Parent than You had

Are you a better parent than the parents you had?
Did you vow never to do some of the things they did, that hurt you?And yet, you still slip up.
I do.

It’s because we carry parenting and programming that we got from our parents, that came from their parents, our grandparents and again from their parents. It goes back generations.

What’s important to understand is how that programming works and where it came from. And also to understand, that that programming is not a malicious action that our parents deliberately took. It developed while going through the most difficult times of life. And it develops because we don’t have the tools and the skills to handle those situations properly.

So this Wednesday, the 7th of October, I’m doing a webinar where I’m going to talk more about this and explain how this works. Sign up to join me if you want to be a better parent than the parents you had.

I was recently interviewed by Jeff Kahn on his programme The Best of Life, Love and Fruit Salad on Zone Radio, our local community radio station here in Cape Town. We talked about Parental Alienation, specifically the reality of what happens when children are used as weapons in high-conflict divorce. It is a topic I care about deeply and one that does not get nearly enough honest, informed attention. You can listen to the full interview here.

Die gesprek het gehandel oor hoe onverwerkte vorige ervarings en kindertrauma dikwels die onderliggende oorsake van egskeiding is, en waarom dit noodsaaklik is om hierdie patrone te herken voor jy vorentoe beweeg. Ek het ook praktiese eerste stappe gedeel vir enigeen wat tans in die vroeë stadiums van skeiding is en nie net wil oorleef nie, maar werklik wil herstel. Luister nou.
Hierdie gesprek het gefokus op die beskerming van kinders tydens hoë konflik egskeidings, insluitend hoe om ouer-vervreming vroeg raak te sien en wat dit vir beide ouer en kind beteken. Ek het ook praktiese leiding gegee oor hoe ouers wat skei hul ouerskap kan aanpas om verdere trauma te voorkom, en watter ondersteuningsopsies beskikbaar is wanneer samewerking nie moontlik is nie. Luister nou.
Die laaste gesprek het gekyk na hoe mense nie net deur egskeiding kan kom nie, maar aan die ander kant kan floreer deur doelbewus veerkragtigheid in elke lewensarea te kweek. Ek het verduidelik hoe die verskuiwing van ‘n slagoffer mentaliteit na ‘n groeigerigte ingesteldheid moontlik is, en het ‘n boodskap van hoop gelaat vir enigeen wat tans sukkel om lig in die duisternis te sien. Luister nou.
7 Things I Wish I Knew, Before My Divorce: Some of the most important aspects of divorce to bear in mind if you are contemplating it or in the midst thereof.
Intimate Partner Betrayal is a profound emotional and psychological trauma. In this video I explain the immense impact on the betrayed partner and the far reaching effects on their past, present and future Self.

Children of Divorce

When parents separate or divorce, many children are expected to move between homes with nothing but the clothes on their back.
It often seems practical.
It can feel like the safest option in high-conflict situations.
But developmentally, emotionally and psychologically, it can be deeply harmful. Read more...
The pain of being caught between two parents during a high-conflict divorce and worse, being coached, manipulated or emotionally coerced to reject one of the people they love most in the world, is known as parental alienation and it is not a mild relational issue between adults. It is a form of psychological abuse that leaves children emotionally fractured and profoundly dysregulated. Read more...

Podcast Series on the Dynamics of Parental Alienation

Why Parental Alienation Started Long Before Your Separation. Inthis video, I explain how the intricate dynamics of family relationships play out to pave the way to alienation, long before separation event occurs.
Watch the video
Listen to the podcast
Why the Systems Fail Us Every Time (Parental Alienation). Let’s take a hard look at the systems of the law, medical practitioners, mental health professionals, social services, schools, the media and our culture – non are equipped to resolve alienation.
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Listen to the podcast
When Parental Alienation Thrives and Destroys Families. In this video three of the series, I look at the ideal conditions for alienation to occur as well as what is missing in families where alienation is present.
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Listen to the podcast

Love Trauma Series

Other Important Topics

Financial Abuse (Interview with Felicity Guest): Maintenance defaulters who withhold financial support for their children, put the primary caregiving parent in an unbearable predicament and it is exasperated by a broken system that fails to protect vulnerable victims. Listen to the Podcast.
Divorce Support in the Workplace (Interview with Dr Sue Palmer Conn): Worldwide statistics indicate a dire need for employee support when going through a break-up or divorce. In this interview we discuss what can be done to meet that need effectively. Listen to the Podcast.
Special Needs Divorce Support: In this interview with Mary Ann Hughes, we discuss various aspects to consider during separation and divorce, that impact children with special needs.

Listen to the Podcast.

FREE Online Divorce Summit (25 June)

On 25 June 2025, which is Global Fair Divorce Day, we hosted the second annual FREE Online Divorce Summit, with more than 40 Expert and Lived Experience interviews, for you to peruse at your leisure.

Watch this space for news and updates about the next summit coming in 2026.

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