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Wednesday 11 November 2026
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Learn how to be a better parent than you had, by breaking the generational cycles of toxic parenting programming. Adopt a healthy parenting style without over-compensating for your perceived loss, becoming permissive due to an unresolved trauma response or repeating patterns because you lack awareness.

Listen to several examples of my own lived experiences and how I managed to overcome the adverse impact of my own childhood and still cultivate conscious parenting every day, for a better future generation. It stops with me and it also grows with me.

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Waar kom geweld vandaan? Geweld is ongesonde gedrag wat aangeleer is en weer afgeleer kan word. Luister vanmiddag, Dinsdag 3 November om 13:20, wanneer ek saam met Martelize Brink van DrieSestig op RSG gesels oor die wortels van geweld in ons huise en verhoudings, en wat jy vandag kan doen om dit te stop. Dit is die eerste van vier gesprekke, elke Dinsdag op 3, 10, 17 en 24 November. Luister saam, en deel dit met iemand wat dit nodig het.

How to Support Someone in a Toxic Relationship

How to recognise the realities of abuse, understand why leaving is so difficult, protect your loved one, and become a source of strength throughout their journey towards freedom and recovery.

You want to shake them into reality. You want to explain, demonstrate, expose and prove what you can see so clearly. You want to tell them to leave, stand up for themselves and reclaim their lives… read more…

I was recently interviewed by Jeff Kahn on his programme The Best of Life, Love and Fruit Salad on Zone Radio, our local community radio station here in Cape Town. We talked about Parental Alienation, specifically the reality of what happens when children are used as weapons in high-conflict divorce. It is a topic I care about deeply and one that does not get nearly enough honest, informed attention. You can listen to the full interview here.

Die gesprek het gehandel oor hoe onverwerkte vorige ervarings en kindertrauma dikwels die onderliggende oorsake van egskeiding is, en waarom dit noodsaaklik is om hierdie patrone te herken voor jy vorentoe beweeg. Ek het ook praktiese eerste stappe gedeel vir enigeen wat tans in die vroeë stadiums van skeiding is en nie net wil oorleef nie, maar werklik wil herstel. Luister nou.
Hierdie gesprek het gefokus op die beskerming van kinders tydens hoë konflik egskeidings, insluitend hoe om ouer-vervreming vroeg raak te sien en wat dit vir beide ouer en kind beteken. Ek het ook praktiese leiding gegee oor hoe ouers wat skei hul ouerskap kan aanpas om verdere trauma te voorkom, en watter ondersteuningsopsies beskikbaar is wanneer samewerking nie moontlik is nie. Luister nou.
Die laaste gesprek het gekyk na hoe mense nie net deur egskeiding kan kom nie, maar aan die ander kant kan floreer deur doelbewus veerkragtigheid in elke lewensarea te kweek. Ek het verduidelik hoe die verskuiwing van ‘n slagoffer mentaliteit na ‘n groeigerigte ingesteldheid moontlik is, en het ‘n boodskap van hoop gelaat vir enigeen wat tans sukkel om lig in die duisternis te sien. Luister nou.
7 Things I Wish I Knew, Before My Divorce: Some of the most important aspects of divorce to bear in mind if you are contemplating it or in the midst thereof.
Intimate Partner Betrayal is a profound emotional and psychological trauma. In this video I explain the immense impact on the betrayed partner and the far reaching effects on their past, present and future Self.

Children of Divorce

When parents separate or divorce, many children are expected to move between homes with nothing but the clothes on their back.
It often seems practical.
It can feel like the safest option in high-conflict situations.
But developmentally, emotionally and psychologically, it can be deeply harmful. Read more...
The pain of being caught between two parents during a high-conflict divorce and worse, being coached, manipulated or emotionally coerced to reject one of the people they love most in the world, is known as parental alienation and it is not a mild relational issue between adults. It is a form of psychological abuse that leaves children emotionally fractured and profoundly dysregulated. Read more...

Podcast Series on the Dynamics of Parental Alienation

Why Parental Alienation Started Long Before Your Separation. Inthis video, I explain how the intricate dynamics of family relationships play out to pave the way to alienation, long before separation event occurs.
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Why the Systems Fail Us Every Time (Parental Alienation). Let’s take a hard look at the systems of the law, medical practitioners, mental health professionals, social services, schools, the media and our culture – non are equipped to resolve alienation.
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When Parental Alienation Thrives and Destroys Families. In this video three of the series, I look at the ideal conditions for alienation to occur as well as what is missing in families where alienation is present.
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Love Trauma Series

Other Important Topics

Financial Abuse (Interview with Felicity Guest): Maintenance defaulters who withhold financial support for their children, put the primary caregiving parent in an unbearable predicament and it is exasperated by a broken system that fails to protect vulnerable victims. Listen to the Podcast.
Divorce Support in the Workplace (Interview with Dr Sue Palmer Conn): Worldwide statistics indicate a dire need for employee support when going through a break-up or divorce. In this interview we discuss what can be done to meet that need effectively. Listen to the Podcast.
Special Needs Divorce Support: In this interview with Mary Ann Hughes, we discuss various aspects to consider during separation and divorce, that impact children with special needs.

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