An authoritative parenting perspective on belongings, boundaries and building resilience through separation When parents separate or divorce, whether amicably or through high conflict, decisions are often made quickly in the name of practicality, peacekeeping or emotional survival. One of the most common of these decisions is this: the child moves between homes with only the […]
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When a Child’s Anger Is Not “Bad Behaviour” There is a particular kind of pain a child carries silently. It is the pain of being caught between two parents during a high-conflict divorce and worse, being coached, manipulated or emotionally coerced to reject one of the people they love most in the world. This process
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Yes, you read correctly. When going through a divorce or blending a new family, putting the children’s needs above everyone else’s, is toxic. In fact, it is not a good idea for any family. It is a great recipe for unhealthy parent-child relationships and dysfunctional families. Since I founded this platform in 2015, I’ve been
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Here is our June Give-Away! Congratulations to Ashleigh who won this book! Herve G-Wery, author of WE LOVE YOU No Matter What has generously donated two autographed copies of his book, one of which will be kept in our Library and the other will be given away in a lucky draw. To enter the draw, please
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Parents in the stage of separation and divorce shall submit a jointly agreed parenting plan to the court specifying how their children are to be raised including decision making authority, time sharing allocations and a method for resolving/mediating disputes outside of court. In the event parents cannot reach agreement on a parenting plan either in
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288 Alienated Children’s Names from all over the world, Pinned to two Christmas Trees for Alienated Families in 2017. . Did you miss someone last Christmas? Claim the rightful place of your alienated child or grand-child in your family! Hold a space for them in your circle of celebrations and honour the tremendous trauma of
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Sport24 article refers: Ex-Proteas star Cullinan convicted over child maintenance The good news is that two children’s basic right to parental care from both parents, have finally been protected by the court, as it should be. But the bad news is that the State neglected its duty to protect children’s rights in the first place:
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Our August Give-Away guides parents to help their children cope with divorce! South African Anne Cawood, author of Adjusting the Boundaries has generously donated two autographed copies of her book, one of which will be kept in our Library and the other will be given away in a lucky draw. To enter the draw, please comment below
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After the experience itself, children of divorce face a lot of difficulties. Their lives can change drastically, and given their age, they do not necessarily have a lot of input on the matter. It’s when they start getting older, their opinions on the matters at hand start surfacing, causing emotional reactions and behaviours. High school
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For children of divorce, routines can be a safety net, which allows individuals to escape the harsh realities of parental discord. They seek comfort in the mundane, day-to-day activities of school, but for many children of divorce, their lives are being upended through moving to a new house and switching to a new school. It’s
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